Self Love: My Journey & Tips
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I know what it feels like to be depressed, to not want to be alive. I also know what it feels like to love life and be truly thankful to be alive. The turning point for me was when I started my self love journey which is what I am going to share with you today.
What is self love?
On surface level it was easy to say I loved myself but when I dug deeper I realized that my actions and my thoughts were not reflections of self love. I was in the habit of talking poorly to myself, I let others treat me poorly and when in my eating disorder I was practicing self harm on a daily basis.
Self love to me is loving myself more than anybody else, treating myself with respect, speaking nicely to myself, feeding my self healthy foods. Basically treating myself the way I would choose to be treated by others.
Self love and relationships:
I've had multiple boyfriends tell me when we were dating that they love me more than anyone else. I even had one dedicate that band of horses song *cue music* but what does that mean after we breakup? Do they still love me more than anybody else? No, because that's my job. In the end, the only person who will always be there for me, is me! I can choose to love myself more than anybody else and that is so incredibly empowering.
I could write a list a mile long about how people have wronged me in my life but at the same time I could also write a list a mile long about how I have wronged my self. Other people will treat me as good or bad as I treat myself. Have you heard that saying: "Treat others the way you would want to be treated?" I say turn that around, treat yourself the way you want to be treated because you attract what you are. If you treat yourself with respect you will attract others who will treat you with respect. The people you surround yourself with and the people you attract say a lot about where you are in your journey right now.
The first step towards self love is to pay attention. Pay attention to the people in your life, how they treat themselves and how they treat you. Pay attention to the words you say to yourself, notice the thoughts you think when you look in the mirror.
My journey started with loving my acne. I used to have really bad acne and every time I would look in the mirror all I would see was my acne. I would constantly tell myself I was ugly. I didn't understand how anyone could like me.
At age 24 is when I had my big transformation from a pink haired party girl to a crunchy mama. And during that phase I had given up all makeup which I thought would help my acne but with all my natural ways, I still had acne. I went through a period where I was so discouraged and disgusted that I covered up all of the mirrors for a week, I didn't want to look at myself. Then one day I looked in the mirror, saw my acne and decided that I was going to rock it. I was done wearing makeup and covering it up, I had tried all the natural remedies and nothing worked, what else could I do? My acne was apart of me and I decided to love it. Eventually my skin cleared up and I wrote about what I did to make that happen in my book, Rawspiration.
That was 3 years ago and I didn't fully understand the importance of self love until this last year. With every action and thought I choose, it's either a reflection of the love I have for myself or the dislike. This is true even with food. All the years I lived with bulimia and I would eat until I felt full and disgusting and then go vomit, that was a form of self harm, the opposite of showing myself love. Now I show love for my body by nourishing it with healthy foods, foods that I want to keep in my body.
The second step is to make a conscious decision to change your thoughts and your actions. After I started noticing all the terrible things I was saying to myself, I started to replace them, even if I didn't fully believe it in the moment, I still said it. It was like opposite day, every day. I would look into the mirror and tell myself I was beautiful and give myself a hug, which was oddly comforting. When I would notice a negative thought pop up, I would quickly squash it and replace it with a positive thought. Once I got in the habit of doing that it became quite easy to find positive things even from negative situations.
My self love blossomed when I started doing daily affirmations with my mala beads. They are 108 beads and I do one affirmation per bead. So that means a minimum of 108 times, I say something nice about myself or my life. This has been a catalyst for my self love and I highly recommend this to anyone who is looking to increase their quality of life.
Self Love Affirmations:
My words and my actions reflect the love I have for myself.
I show my self love and respect by nourishing my body with healthy foods.
I love and approve of myself exactly where I am right now.
Final Words From RawMama
Most of my youth and adult life I was constantly searching for someone to love me, to fill the void I had in my heart. Not realizing that the love was inside of me, waiting to be found. This last year I have been working on filling that void with my own love and my life has transformed. I feel happier (completely single) than I have ever felt before as a single person or even in a relationship.
Bottom line: Inner peace starts with self-love and I am the only one who can create self-love.
Rawspiration, the eBook
THIS IS THE EBOOK, GET THE HARDCOPY HERE
Rawspiration is an ebook about my journey from a pink haired party girl to a crunchy mama and everything I learned along the way.
I have poured my heart and soul into this book with the intention to change as many lives as possible. The purpose is not to sell you a quick fix or make a profit. The purpose is to better your life, to show you there is a different way of living, that you can find peace in this chaotic world.
In this book I have included:
Here is my favorite review of this book by my friend Crystal Love:"So, I'm sitting here reading Anne Meinke's new book, thinking I was going to have a ton of new, delicious raw recipes to try, but this book is SO MUCH MORE! An extraordinary young lady's story of heartache, transformation, healing & journey into motherhood. I am blown away & admit I've had to grab some tissues a couple of times! Not only is the book RAW, honest, real & full of RAWsome recipes, she's included everything you need to easily move to a more plant-based, all natural lifestyle. I just had to give a shout out, I've never read a book quite like this, very well done, thorough & did I mention RAW!"
Affirmation Journal (e-version)
The idea for this affirmation journal came to me when I started building myself back up after a mental breakdown in early 2017. I took a composition notebook and wrote a positive affirmation on each page. Every day I would spend about 10-20 minutes, pick a few affirmations and write them over and over again. This method really helped me change my mental patterns to create a healthier and happier me.
In this journal, I provide my favorite affirmations with lines for you to write them over and over. There are 4 different categories: Love & Relationships, Career & Financial Success, Optimum Health & Happiness and Peace, Balance & Moving Forward. There is a section where I teach you how to make your own affirmations (DIY Affirmations) and I also teach you two other affirmation techniques that personally help me with pages to utilize them as well.
I made this e-version all black and white so you could easily print at home. There are 8 mandalas throughout the book that were intentionally left black and white so you can color them in!
I hope this journal helps you as much as it helped me!
3 Day Meal Plan (High Raw)
Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Are you bored of eating the same food every day? Are you looking for new, delicious and easy recipes? Are you ready to experience more energy AND spend less time in the kitchen?
THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!
My 3-day meal plan will set you up to succeed with a new and exciting recipe for every meal! Spend a few hours on prep day to make the 3 days a breeze! Eating mostly raw means very few dishes and pans to scrub, making clean up super quick and easy!
I put a lot of thought and energy into this meal plan! I focused on using the same ingredients and recipes to make different meals, making the grocery list as short as possible. I made sure to get greens and one avocado into the meals each day.
This 3-day meal plan is a spin-off of my larger eBook, Rawspiration. I recommend buying them together. I have so much information in Rawspiration that is not in this mini-meal plan.
What This eBook Includes:
*An outline of the meal plan
*A shopping list
*Instructions for "Prep Day"
*Day by Day instructions
The following RAW recipes: Banana Milk, Greenola, Smoothie Bowl, Green Smoothie, Marinara (for spaghetti!), Ranch, Salted Caramel, Gingery Date Sauce, Quick Guac, Quick Salsa, Quick Chilly, Nice Cream (3 flavors), and Chocolate Mousse.
The following COOKED recipes: Sweet Potato Nachos & Sweet Potato Lettuce Wraps
*There are tips to make this a fully raw meal plan*
Dairy-Free Me eBook
Break free from your dairy addiction with this mini-ebook! Learn all RawMama’s favorite dairy substitutes that helped ease her off the addicting dairy products that cause more harm than good. As a former cheese addict, RawMama is confident she can help you say goodbye to this addictive food with her delicious dairy substitutes.
The recipes you will learn: